Coaching is a PROCESS DESIGNED TO HELP Disciples GROW.
Coaching is much more than an hour of talking! There will be tools, homework, reading, and direct feedback. You will grow as you put faith into practice.
Our approach is rooted in attachment theory, trauma informed, and story driven.
We believe all effort to change must be highly relational. We will give lots of room to work through your story while remaining focused on your current goals. We believe that as you experience greater self-awareness your relational life will blossom.
By the end of the process you will have deeper emotional connection, a plan for continued growth, and resources to develop relational connection.
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$100/ session.
Typically, we began with a 3-month, weekly commitment. If initial 3-month commitment is paid upfront, we offer a 10% discount. Otherwise, payments are due at each session.
“Coaching with Healing Villages will probably be a pivot point I will look back on for the rest of my life. While he pointed me to good resources that helped me, the biggest gift was having a safe presence to process with. Someone who got mad for me when hearing about things done to me, someone who laughed with me, someone who empathized with me while calling me upward. Coaching is more than prescriptive living; it’s entering the depths with a guide and friend who holds the light out and walks with toward freedom.”
Overview
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1 | Admission (naming the problem)
Growth begins with awareness, and awareness begins with naming the problem. For most of us, life seems to work for us until it stops working. We find success and acknowledgement, but it often comes at the expense of loosing ourselves in the process. The ignored wounds we carry aren’t just water under the bridge, they will eventually build up against the dam and at some point present themselves in problems, often in major ways.
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2 | Awareness (finding the roots)
We will continue becoming more aware. We move from naming the problem to looking at the root of the problem in our story. As we do this narrative work we will pay special attention to what our bodies and our emotions are telling us. God created our bodies wonderfully, and much of it’s design is for our flourishing. As we pay attention to our bodies and emotions we may find deep and surprising healing.
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3 | Acceptance (coming to grips with you)
All about regulation. A wonderful thing happens as we began to give our story and our emotions space - we move towards acceptance of things we have long tried to stuff and ignore. As we come to accept the narrative arc of our lives, we come to accept life on God’s terms rather than our own. Acceptance is key to living a settled and free life.
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4 | Attunement (feel your feelings)
We start to outline what restoration could look like. Restoration isn’t a perfect, linear process. But, there is a simple process that gets us there. Attunement is vital. Attunement shows up when we feel our feelings, tell the truth about ourselves and our lives, and give it away to God and others without expectation about outcomes. As we come alive to ourselves and our feelings, we make ourselves so much easier to tune into.
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5 | Attachment (life-giving relationships).
We are designed for connection, intimacy, and attachment. A child comes into the world knowing one thing - it must attach to a caregiver. When attachment is broken and abused, we move through life with a huge void. Unless our attachment is healed and we find healthy connections rooted in intimacy, we will continue to wonder and feel the void.
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6 | Alignment (congruent identity)
All about expansion and alignment. As a coach I want you to grow and expand. I want you to solve your specific problem and be equipped with the tools to do so. I believe that most of our problems are relational, with narrative driven reasons for their ongoing nature. I believe that in relationship we can began to heal, and that as we do so our God-given and tue identity will start to shine.
TOPICS COVERED
Career, calling, competence
Compulsions, addictions, and self-management
Finding purpose in your relationships
Emotional health: developing greater social & self-awareness
Work/life balance
Family Issues and relational difficulties
Spiritual Life: practices, prayer, identity, etc. & Skepticism: doubt, grief, lament, etc.
Battling self-doubt, shame, codependence, and toxic inner-voice
What is Coaching?
Coaching is not psychotherapy or licensed counseling, although it may carry some similarities. Coaching is a solution-oriented process designed to help clients grow in their relationships and emotional health, as well as their leadership ability.
We will create an environment and structure designed to be deeply healing and empowering. We will visit themes from your past and work through real-time implications of those life-shaping events. In our sessions you will learn to be more fully present and in turn more fully alive.
As we make this quest, you will discover reasons that may hold you back from living authentically and without shame. Our approach is rooted in the attachment theory and is highly relational. We will give lots of room for story work while remaining focused on current identity and relational alignment. By the end of our sessions you will have a plan for continued growth and resources to continue to develop emotional and relational health.
Our Approach?
Our approach to coaching is rooted in the Scriptures, trauma-informed care, and grounded in story. If you feel like the way you are living isn’t fulfilling, but you don’t know why, that’s not unusual. But it’s also not the way God intends us to live. If your outer successes aren’t matched by inner peace, you aren’t alone, although you may often feel like you are. If you think you might need help, but don’t know what kind of help to ask for, coaching may assist.
Coaching is a customizable process designed to bring you more in touch with yourself and develop you as a leader. The aim is to bring congruence, emotional health, genuine identity, and joy/full-life back into your leadership.
You will be doing left and right brain learning, deep heart-work, and challenging practical application. This will take a lot of time and energy. It will require you to feel real emotions - grieve, get angry, be overcome with sadness, etc. The process works if you work it, and you should because you’re worth it.